What should I do if I want to open the urn later?
Keeping the ashes of a loved one in a cremation urn is, for many people, a loving and respectful way to keep memories alive. However, there may come a time when you wish to open the urn again. For example, to divide the ashes among family members, to combine them with those of another loved one, or to scatter them partially at a later moment. In this article, you will learn what to consider when doing so.
Why Would You Want to Open an Urn?
Keeping a loved one’s ashes in a cremation urn is, for many people, a loving and respectful way to keep memories close. Yet there are moments when families decide to reopen the urn. Common reasons include:
- Dividing the ashes among several family members, such as for memorial jewellery or mini urns.
- Combining ashes with those of another loved one, such as a partner.
- Scattering part of the ashes while keeping the rest preserved.
- Transferring the ashes to a new urn that better suits your wishes or home.
- Inspecting the contents if there are doubts or questions.
Am I Allowed to Open an Urn?
Yes, it is perfectly legal to open a cremation urn that you own. Once the urn has been transferred to the next of kin, you are free to handle it as you wish, provided you do so respectfully.
However, if the urn is placed in a cemetery, columbarium, or memorial wall, you will need permission from the cemetery authority. In some cases, formal documentation may be required before the urn can be released or exhumed.
How Do I Open My Urn Safely?
The correct method depends on the material and type of closure. Below is an overview of the most common types:
- Urn with a screw lid (common for metal urns): these can be opened and closed by gently twisting the lid. Always do this carefully and consider wearing gloves.
- Glued urns: the lid is usually sealed with silicone adhesive. It can be reopened, but this requires careful cutting or softening of the glue with heat. We recommend professional assistance for this.
- Urn with an inner container or ash capsule: many urns include a separate plastic or metal ash container with its own threaded or click lid. You first open the outer urn, then the inner container.
- Ceramic or stone urns: these are often glued shut and may break if forced open. Always seek advice from a specialist or crematorium before attempting to open them yourself.
Opening an urn can be emotionally intense. Take your time, choose a quiet and private space, and if possible, invite someone you trust to be with you.
Please note: if an urn has been kept outdoors for a long time, the ashes may harden into a single mass due to moisture. This can make removal more difficult later. For more details, see our guide Urns Suitable for Outdoor Placement.
Can the Urn Be Resealed Afterwards?
Yes, in most cases an urn can be safely resealed. You can use:
- The original threaded lid (if available).
- Acid-free silicone sealant or Polymax adhesive for airtight closure.
- An ash bag as an additional layer of protection before sealing.
Some people choose to symbolically reseal the urn with wax, ribbon or a personal ritual to mark the moment.
Practical and Emotional Considerations
Before deciding to open an urn, take a moment to reflect on the following questions:
- Am I emotionally ready to do this?
- Do I want to share this moment with others?
- What do I intend to do with the ashes afterwards?
- Would I like to mark this moment with a small ceremony or ritual?
Opening a cremation urn is more than a practical act, it can also be a deeply symbolic and healing moment, allowing space for a new chapter in the grieving process.
Need Help or Advice?
If you are unsure about how to open or reseal an urn, or if you wish to divide the ashes into multiple urns or pieces of memorial jewellery, we are here to help. Our support is always discreet, respectful and tailored to your personal wishes. Browse our collection of cremation urn accessories or contact us for compassionate guidance.
